“One
of the greatest diseases is to be nobody to anybody”- Mother Theresa
Human beings are
relational beings. In his lifetime, a human being would have formed
relationships and connections at home, work, school, worship centers and just
about any other place where he comes into contact with other human beings as he
strives to make something of his life.
While some of these relationships
bring happiness and a sense of belonging, others are a source of anguish and
pain that result, sometimes, in hatred for fellow human beings.
How do you manage
relationships such as will bring you mutual benefits with others while
minimizing frictions?
1.
You must develop the earlier discussed
core competencies of emotional intelligence i.e. self-awareness,
self-management and other awareness.
2.
You need to trust others to work effectively
and exist with them. In doing this, you must strike the right balance between
trusting too much and not trusting at all.
3.
You must be in control of your own
emotions to work effectively with other people. You must learn to be in
charge of your emotions and not the other way so you can choose when and how
you express them.
4.
Be prepared to manage conflicts.
Your goal in any relationship is not to avoid conflicts, but to deal with them
in a calm and respectful way when they arise. However, before conflicts emerge,
recognize your hot buttons-things that can set you off emotionally-also
recognize the hot buttons of the people around you.
5.
Recognize that as human beings we need some
measure of interdependence to maximize our potentials. Nonetheless,
there comes a time when it is necessary for us to work independently. It is
worth knowing when to strike the balance.
Be
Inspired!
Remain
Motivated!
References
Sparrow, T. and Knight,
A. (2006) Applied Emotional Intelligence-
The Importance of Attitudes in Developing Emotional Intelligence, John
Wiley & Sons Ltd.
Stein, J.S (2009)
Emotional Intelligence for Dummies. John
Wiley & Sons Ltd, Canada.
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