Let’s talk about
resolutions…
At this time of the
year, it is very common to hear the word “Resolutions” being bandied about by
all and sundry. Unfortunately, it is a beautiful chorus whose lines are
forgotten almost as soon as it is remembered.
Before delving into
reasons why resolutions fail, it is important to know what it is and why it
still remains everyone’s best friend in the first few hours of the New Year.
A RESOLUTION is simply a decision, determination or resolve to deal
with an identified challenge or problem.
Why is resolution still
very popular?
a)
Everybody want to move further in life
hence many feel that a resolution will serve as that driving force and of
course it can, after all a resolution is a decision to deal with a challenge.
b)
‘Resolution’ is what everybody does at
the beginning of the year. In other not to have nothing to say when asked about
mine, it is safer to just acquire one like everyone else.
c)
It is a shelter for those who are
running away from the heat of a debilitating habit or obsession. Unfortunately
to most of those people, it only serves as a temporary cover though having the
potential for permanence.
d)
People think a resolution can serve as a
short-cut to an envisaged end thus freeing them from the rigour and
thoroughness of hard work. Definitely it can lead one to an expected end, yet
it is not the short-cut people think it is.
Seeing then that there
is nothing wrong with resolutions, what is wrong in its application that makes it
die almost as soon as it is born?
Ø People
ascribe resolutions to a particular time of the year (January 1st)
and a particular place (the church or mosque) thereby overlooking the time when
a decision that would have led to an action being taken on an issue should have
been appropriately taken hence reducing the potency and longevity of the
resolution. Mind you, resolutions are
not born with the coming of a new year, they are always with us to be taken
and stood by all through time even NOW.
Ø Most
people just sit down and without much pondering decide to do or not do
something in a process they call resolution making without bearing in mind that resolutions
are decisions and decision making has a process. It is not something you
just say, it is a goal scoring process that you set in motion.
Ø Just
like a building with a faulty foundation collapses in no time, resolutions
give way if they are not built on sound values. The values you hold are
the building blocks upon which you can rest your resolutions without which it
will be nothing but wishful thinking. This
is the most important factor.
I will stop here for
now and in the next article talk about:
·
The process of making a resolution (also
known as decision making process) and;
·
Values that can hold up a resolution.
Till
then,
Have
a great new year!
Be
inspired!
Remain
motivated!
